Prayer, Not Pressure, Changes People

Prayer, Not Pressure, Changes People

“But we all…are changed…by the Spirit of the Lord.”              2Co 3:18

Jesus asked the question, “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” (Mt 7:3 NIV). Expecting more out of people than they’re able to give will hurt your relationships, not help them. People need the freedom to be who they are. That doesn’t mean they don’t need or want to change. But nobody appreciates being given the message, even subtly, that they must change in order to be loved and accepted. We’re more likely to change for those who are willing to accept us with our shortcomings, than for those who demand we live by their rules. One thing’s for sure: God won’t change the people we’re trying to change until we adopt a “hands off” policy. We must get out of His way and let Him work! Even when we think we’re hiding our disapproval, people still feel it. It’s in our voice and body language. Prayer is the great change agent, not pressure. If we truly love people we’ll pray for them and allow God to work on them His way, on His schedule, and for His glory. Many of those who irritate us are simply being themselves; their personality just doesn’t mesh with ours. Sometimes we want them to change when we need to change. Often the things we require in other people are already available for us to enjoy, if we’ll just stop judging them. For change to be lasting, it must come from the inside out. And only the Spirit of God can bring that kind of change.

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1. Prayer, Not Pressure, Changes People « HE STILL SPEAKS! wrote:
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Wed, December 19, 2012 @ 8:02 AM

2. Rina wrote:
825Dear Mike,Varc2adios memc2adbers of my famc2adily have sufc2adfered with being bipoc2adlar. I too was diagc2adnosed with bipoc2adlar and told to take medc2adicac2adtion for basic2adcally the rest of my life. I, howc2adever, went to the DSM-IV (the encyc2adcloc2adpec2addia of menc2adtal disc2adorc2adders) and read up on the topic. I donc2b4t know how much you yourc2adself have researched the issue. What I have lanreed is that there two basic sources of bipoc2adlarc2adity. One is chemc2adic2adcal and thus treatc2adable with medc2adic2adcine which gives good results where the perc2adson is more or less able to feel norc2admal when the right dosage is found. The secc2adond is more relac2adtional and is treated by healc2ading the deep psyc2adchoc2adlogc2adic2adcal wounds and makc2ading changes in lifestyle that affect our psyc2adcholc2adogy. For examc2adple if the perc2adson is workc2ading 7 days a week and is stressed out, if the perc2adson has no spirc2adic2adtual life (not seekc2ading to know the God who loves us), and/or not eatc2ading well, sleepc2ading enough, or excerc2adsizc2ading, etc. then the perc2adson needs to change his lifestyle. Medc2adic2adcines canc2adnot heal an unbalc2adanced life. Many (legitc2adic2admate) psyc2adcholc2adoc2adgists and counc2adselors get frusc2adtrated becouse peoc2adple come and waste money recievc2ading counc2adselc2ading when they never put in pracc2adtise the advice given to them.My probc2adlem was that I am a perc2adfecc2adtionc2adist and was in a new job sitc2aduc2adac2adtion where I was not havc2ading succ2adcess. Instead of being patient with myself and my defects and givc2ading myself time to grow into the new job, I got down on myself and tried to e2809cpick myself up by my bootc2adstrapse2809d, the result was depresc2adsion. The cure was acceptc2ading myself as I was and getc2adting up every day with the desire to please God by doing my best. With Godc2b4s help, with the underc2adstandc2ading of good friends and counc2adselors I came out of the depresc2adsion. I pray that you will find the root of your bipoc2adlarc2adity and that God will heal you in His infic2adnite love.Shalom,P.c2a0Isaac

Mon, March 3, 2014 @ 5:42 AM

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